Tuesday, July 29, 2014

Mommy Wins! I got my three year old to sleep in her OWN bed!

First, Beauty and the Bump is a judgment-free zone, right? Okay, so yes, my three year old has been sleeping with us from the time she was a few weeks old until just two weeks ago.  Why? The helicopter mom in me just felt more comfortable with her close by - really close by just to ease my "what if" fears. I enjoyed our cuddle time.  Plus, it just made my life as a first-time, exclusively breast feeding mom much easier.  Call me lazy, I don’t care. I need my rest. Yes, I could have let her cry it out, but, I am not that mom.

Now, let us fast forward to year three of bed sharing.  With mini me seriously being half of my size in length, and then stretching out, and kicking covers in her sleep, oh and the infrequent bed-wetting, was getting to be too much.  Our queen-sized bed was not cutting it.  Plus, my husband resorted to sleeping on the couch some nights because he "couldn't sleep peacefully" with her in the bed. Later, I started feeling the same way. At some point, one gets tired of being woken up by a kick, slap or feet in their <insert body part>.  I was also running out of disposable pads for the bed.  And that my friends, is where I said, ‘Kim, enough is enough!’ 

How did I do it?
Every morning, and then in the evenings I’d prepare mini me for her transition into her own bed by letting her know it was time.  Her room, currently, is right next door to ours, so we can hear her in an earshot.  I let her know the following:
1. Mommy and Daddy are right here so nothing will happen to you
2. You have God and Jesus watching over you
3. You’ll sleep so much better in your own bed since you’ll have room to stretch out, and you can leave the sheets off or on when you want
4. You can keep your nightlight on, too. Just make sure you turn it off in the morning.

Guess what? It worked!  When my husband came home, he asked where she was, and with the happiest heart, I said, “She is in her bed.” No tears, no fuss; just hugs, kisses and a story.  Oh, and a small amount of strawberry milk did the trick.  It has since been two weeks (and counting) since she began sleeping in her own bed.  .:Mom Wins!:.

I had to take a picture for proof!

The following morning she was so proud of herself for sleeping in her own bed; however, she did wake up at the crack of dawn to exclaim “Mommy, it’s morning, can I wake up now?” Ahh, this girl is too smart for her own britches.  It was 5:00 am! I said, “No, please go back to bed.” And that she did, of course, after I gave her strawberry milk.   

I honestly believe that she had to be ready, and not forced or shamed into changing her comfortable sleeping habits.  I also noticed that in giving her a responsibility, such as turning off her nightlight in the morning, also encourages her to continue sleeping in her bed.  She says to me “Mommy, I’m a big girl. I turn off my light.”

I’m not going to pretend like this process is all rainbows and unicorns, because that, it is not!  She wakes up in the morning, and then climbs in my bed or on top of me.  Sometimes I let her stay, and the other times, I put her butt right back into her bed (where she belongs).  Also, she wakes me up, and me only, to take her to the bathroom, at least once per night.  Husbands must wear some kind of invisible cloak, I swear!  I guess it’s better than getting peed on, right?  I can’t win everything.

To reward her, I picked up a little Dora the Explorer Great Smile Toothbrush Gift 3 Piece Set (Toothbrush Holder, Toothbrush, Rinse Cup).  She loved it! She must have brushed her teeth three times between the time I gave it to her and going to bed.

Now that I have her sleeping in her bed, my fear is that when we finally transition into our new home, she’s going to revert back to her old behaviors. Hopefully, the larger room, the d├ęcor, new bed, paint etc will entice her to stay in her own room from here on out. PRAY FOR US!

Beauty and the Bump's tips for transitioning your child into their own bed:
1.  Communicate with your child your daily your expectations, and use positive language.  That means, no shaming!
2.  Acknowledge their fears, reassure and comfort them (her comfort is her nightlight) 
3.  Be consistent by putting them back into their own bed when they get out 
4.  Stay in the room until they fall asleep
5. Read to them right before bed
6. Reward them

Did you have trouble getting your child to sleep in his/her own bed? What did you do to nip it in the bud?

Saturday, July 26, 2014

Mini Me's Room: Turning Pinterest Admiration into Reality using @BehrPaint 'Glamour'

While we were playing the waiting game between the time our offer was accepted until close, and even afterward, I was pinning away on Pinterest different decor ideas for the various rooms in what would eventually be our new home.

While searching through Pinterest for ideas for little girl's rooms, I came across, of course, lots of pink; light pink, dark pink, bright pink, pink and white etc.  Point taken; basically, all things girl is supposed to be PINK!  If you know me, and know me well, you know that I am against this "pink is for girls" ideology.  My favorite color, in fact, is purple.  Currently, mini me's room where we are now is a pale lilac, with a darker toned lilac color below the chair rails.  It's cute, and it went well with her Cocalo Jacana bedding.  Instead of transferring the same theme and colors over into what would be her new room, I asked her what colors she'd like, and to my surprise (or disdain) she said "I like pink. It's my favorite color, mommy." Ummm, since when? Check this out, she also wants dark green. This girl is OBSESSED with dark green.  She even picked out a paint chip while at Home Depot.  We, the parents,  decided to just paint her closet green.  We all "win".

Luckily, I came across some cute ideas for pink that weren't "too much", at least in my eyes.  Below is a photo of what we decided on.  Yes, a hot pink ceiling.  Well the shade of pink is called 'Glamour' by Behr paints.  Initially, we were going to use Behr Paint "Ballerina Tutti Frutti", but  we didn't like the shade after it dried down. We paired "Glamour" with a neutral color, 'White City", which I'd describe as a greige (gray + beige).  It looks great! The pink isn't too overwhelming, and adds a fun, girly, glamorous touch to the room.  Besides, it's much more exciting than the powder blue shade the room was prior.

Credit: Apartment Therapy.com

Credit: Pottery Barn Kids

Next, I'd like to add a chandelier, change the hardware on her door to a crystal pull, paint her dresser, and change the hardware on that, too. Oh, and paint her bed.  She asked for a white bed, too! This kid is demanding, man.  But, since she's been sleeping in her own bed now for over a week, she can get it.

I found some furniture painting tips/ideas over on Pretty Handy Girl.  You can keep up with my inspiration pins for her room on the Pinterest board I created specifically for her room.

Disclosure: All opinions are my own and are honest. Products purchased with my own money. 

Friday, July 25, 2014

Updating my Intimate Wardrobe with the help of Intimacy Bra Fit Stylists

I've had a baby, gained and lost weight, and guess what that means? I need a new wardrobe, and not just clothes, underwear, too.   It’s important to make sure that I look good, especially when I’m going out, whether it’s to work or on a date with my husband.  And to ensure that I do look my best, things must fit, and fit correctly.  There’s nothing worst looking than a poorly fit item of clothing. The same thing goes for your undergarments.

Earlier this year, I updated my undergarment wardrobe at one of my favorite lingerie shops, Intimacy Bra Fit Stylists.  Between then and now, I've lost nearly 10 lbs. Yes, 10 lbs! Amazing, right? At least I think so.  Anyway, the only thing this weight loss means is, I needed new underwear; new bras, panties, maybe some matching sets, or something sexy to end my date nights on the right foot .:wink, wink:..  Regardless, I needed something, and my husband noticed, too.  I quickly setup an appointment for my sister and myself using the online appointment scheduling tool; sisters bonding over boobs and bras. .:LOL:.

Prior to my fitting, the Bra Fit Stylist, Shani, asked me the purpose of my visit. I told her I wanted:  1. Something to wear every day, and 2. Something to wear for my husband.  Mind you, I only wanted to buy one maybe two bras, but I wound up getting three bras, two of which are sets.

Since I have very little color in my undergarments wardrobe, I picked up the Chanelle C Magnifique Plunge Push-up Bra, which is this cute, but still sexy number that’s hot pink with a coral lining. It’s perfect for summer, and for my upcoming vacation. Intimacy was out of the panties for this particular bra, but did recommend a a fun lace pair from Hanky Panky.  For the days/nights I want to get sexy, I  picked up a nude lace set with black stitching. Both the bra and panties have a cute little bow on them.  My third purchase was a light pink and grey set, the Fantasie 'Lois' set with lace detailing, reminiscent of a French maid’s outfit. It was one of my favorites, too.  This is the one I got to bring home.  My husband loved it, too.

Two of the bras I purchased weren't available in my cup size, so I had to get a larger band, and then have it altered, for free, of course.  I love that about Intimacy Bra Fit Stylists.  Two sets, I placed on my wish list for purchasing at a later date.  I just couldn't fathom spending double my budget all at once. Plus, maybe someone will surprise me later with one of the items off of my wish list.

Although I spent a lot of money on my underwear, there’s something about a well-fit bra that slims your waist, while simultaneously making your clothes look 10x’s better.  So, if you ask me, it was well worth it. Plus, there's nothing wrong with treating yourself, which is what I did. I deserve it, too.

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